One of the main reasons we are always anxious is because we’re inherently waiting for the next problem to hit. We seem to be bracing for impact; ready for life to throw its next curve ball at us.
This habit gets instilled in us at a very young age. This starts from school, where no one really knows when they will be hit with a surprise quiz that might make up for ten percent of the total grade. This then moves into college where you never know what might turn the teacher against you when you speak.
We are at constant odds against the world and this starts to take a toll on our nervous system. We can’t seem to enjoy the simple things in life, like sitting in the park under a tree reading a book. We can’t feel the worries fade away as the cold wind on a warm day soothes.
This is one of the main reasons why we end up stressed, sad and eventually fall into depression. We feel that we are not moving forward, because to move forward one needs to get off of the back foot. Constantly being on the defensive is never going to let that happen.
The only way, and this is not going to be easy, is to let loose. Focusing on what you have in the present without worrying about the future problems is the way to move forward. That is something easier said than done, but it needs to start somewhere.
Take time out for yourself without feeling guilty. You’ll be taking care of yourself.
What good is a future that you are working for in the present without having the time or energy to enjoy it?
Answer: It’s no good. So try to stop worrying about things that you can’t control and don’t worry about the things you can. You’ll feel much happier and you’ll get a lot more out of life when you do.